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  • ZokesPro
    Serial Murcerer
    • Sep 2000
    • 8325

    #16
    HS girls?

    High strung?
    Titanium is the new bling!
    (you heard from me first!)

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    • Byock
      Super MURCer
      • Jul 2000
      • 2328

      #17
      High School.
      "I dream of a better world where chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned."

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      • Kooldino
        Super MURCer
        • Nov 2002
        • 3026

        #18
        @schmosef & llc - well, that at least answers my question. I'll try not to solve her problems in the future. It just sucks because like you guys, I'm a natural problem solver.

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        • Kooldino
          Super MURCer
          • Nov 2002
          • 3026

          #19
          Originally posted by Wombat
          Dino, it's time to stop dating HS girls.
          Haha, thanks man.

          For the record, I normally date girls between the ages of 21 and 27 (I'm 26 myself), and while the girl in question IS at the younger end of that scale, she doesn't always act it. Obviously, the only reason I'm even attempting to deal with it is because she does have some outstanding qualities.

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          • schmosef
            Super MURCer
            • Dec 2002
            • 5813

            #20
            I've found in practise that even if you tell a girl that you find it painful to listen to her bitch about her problems but not want to let you help her solve them they'll just assume that's your problem and keep on bitching.

            As men we have to suck it up. I find that it helps to at least be aware of the psychology at play in that situation.
            P.S. You've been Spanked!

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            • ZokesPro
              Serial Murcerer
              • Sep 2000
              • 8325

              #21
              Originally posted by schmosef
              I've found in practise that even if you tell a girl that you find it painful to listen to her bitch about her problems but not want to let you help her solve them they'll just assume that's your problem and keep on bitching.
              You don't tell her that it's painful to listen to her, that's just suicide!

              Originally posted by schmosef
              As men we have to suck it up.
              That's sort of what I meant when I said 'Sounds like she used you as her temporary punching bag.'
              Last edited by ZokesPro; 2 February 2006, 12:51.
              Titanium is the new bling!
              (you heard from me first!)

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              • Kooldino
                Super MURCer
                • Nov 2002
                • 3026

                #22
                Originally posted by schmosef
                I've found in practise that even if you tell a girl that you find it painful to listen to her bitch about her problems but not want to let you help her solve them they'll just assume that's your problem and keep on bitching.

                As men we have to suck it up. I find that it helps to at least be aware of the psychology at play in that situation.
                It definitely is. That's all I was really looking for.

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                • lowlifecat
                  Super MURCer
                  • Feb 2004
                  • 1226

                  #23
                  pretending to be only semi-interested would have helped you out a lot more!

                  woulda prolly gotten you some instead of her slamming shut IM in your face.

                  lol
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                  • RC Agent
                    MURCer
                    • Oct 2001
                    • 422

                    #24
                    Originally posted by Kooldino
                    Obviously, the only reason I'm even attempting to deal with it is because she does have some outstanding qualities.
                    Um.....which qualities would those be?
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                    • Kooldino
                      Super MURCer
                      • Nov 2002
                      • 3026

                      #25
                      Originally posted by RC Agent
                      Um.....which qualities would those be?
                      LOL, well here's a start:

                      **SNWS**

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                      • ZokesPro
                        Serial Murcerer
                        • Sep 2000
                        • 8325

                        #26
                        That's some nice 'quality'!
                        Titanium is the new bling!
                        (you heard from me first!)

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                        • schmosef
                          Super MURCer
                          • Dec 2002
                          • 5813

                          #27
                          That's some quality 'nice'!
                          P.S. You've been Spanked!

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                          • Wombat
                            Super MURCer
                            • Aug 2000
                            • 9498

                            #28
                            Originally posted by Kooldino
                            Obviously, the only reason I'm even attempting to deal with it is because she does have some outstanding qualities.
                            So, what you're saying is, too bad she has to ruin it by talking? :P
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                            • Sasq
                              Administrator
                              • Jan 2001
                              • 4635

                              #29
                              I found the secret for giving advice in that situation, is to just detail an almost 'identical' situation where you got f**ked over for the same thing, and just say what you did to sort it.

                              even if you fudge the story a little so you can get the advice over.
                              Then you not telling them what to do, your telling sharing with them, what you did.
                              Juu nin to iro


                              English doesn't borrow from other languages. It follows them down dark alleys, knocks them over, and goes through their pockets for loose grammar.

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                              • J1NG
                                Super MURCer
                                • Feb 2000
                                • 1388

                                #30
                                Originally posted by Sasq
                                I found the secret for giving advice in that situation, is to just detail an almost 'identical' situation where you got f**ked over for the same thing, and just say what you did to sort it.

                                even if you fudge the story a little so you can get the advice over.
                                Then you not telling them what to do, your telling sharing with them, what you did.
                                Same practice here. Although I try to limit the girls I talk to, to only a few that I know I can put up with.

                                J1NG

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