"Women To Avoid"

[ND66]

For all of the nice guys out there.


Women To Avoid


Avoid The Friend Zone


Avoiding The Traps Women Set


Why Do Some Women Play Hard To Get?


Picking Up A Woman From A Group


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[Fluff]

Anyone got any comments on this? Seems like reasonable advice.

[lowlifecat]

reading in bits and pieces. comments following

[lowlifecat]

some of those 'smart comments' don't work in real life.

[ZokesPro]

Each girl is different so you have to do a case by case evaluation and use your best judgment. The advice isn't bad, but it isn't all that good either.

[az]

I think it's time for some theoretical background: Read up on Ladder Theory.

Those articles were a little too shallow for me. BTW, a week or so ago I stumbled upon a very long wikipedia article named Nice Guy Syndrome and thought "interesting - I'll read that tomorrow". The next day, the article had been deleted because it didn't belong in an encyclopedia

[Claymonkey]

AZ - I actually read that wiki. It was pretty good. Sadly you're right it's gone

In the avoid the friend zone I actually got slapped across the face with the description of the psycho. Sadly I've lived that situation.

[Fluff]

I think it's time for some theoretical background: Read up on Ladder Theory.

Those articles were a little too shallow for me. BTW, a week or so ago I stumbled upon a very long wikipedia article named Nice Guy Syndrome and thought "interesting - I'll read that tomorrow". The next day, the article had been deleted because it didn't belong in an encyclopedia

http://forums.murc.ws/showpost.php?p=594139&postcount=5

Is a cut n paste from google cache.

[Fluff]

Think alot of this probably down to insecurities towards women. (myself included). Generally 'men' arent meant to have them, and if they do how do they cope, how do you deal with it and move on. Easy to get stuck in a rut.

Only option is to accept the things you cannot change, and try sharpen the rest of your toolkit, think about what you want, be honest and be prepared to make mistakes. Hope that confidence comes through that. Easier said than done.

[ZokesPro]

Read this.

http://www.alovelinksplus.com/advice/approaching_women/nice-guy-syndrome.htm

Then read the More 'Art of Approaching' Articles: and if you can't get a date then your hopeless. I find that site to be much more helpful than the original topic's advice.

[ND66]

Think alot of this probably down to insecurities towards women.

Agreed.

I find that site to be much more helpful than the original topic's advice.

Agreed again, I just happen to catch the title with the corner of my eye, so I posted the link here. Figured it may or may not help explaining some things in relationship. However, considering from the nature of the site it came from, I’d think that it would help you score, rather then help you with a steady relationship.

Want to know what I think?

In my opinion relationship is a two-way street. You’ll need to give some & take some too.

You just can’t go after a girl that’s totally not interested in you.

Just like it kind of scares you if the girl is after you so bad, it looks like she’s stalking you.

It’s the two-way street you’re looking for in relationship and if you think you’ve found it, you’ll always need to keep the finger on the pulse.

Man & woman nature is to always wonder “what if”, looking for that extra excitement, thrill of the romance quest or whatever you can call it.

Ask Doc or anyone with over 20 years of relationship, what goes thru his mind when seeing a knockout girl?
The first thing you do is imagine how would it look like, you & her, or you feel just pure desire for her. The second thing, just a few seconds later is: It’s not worth it, I have a loving wife, beautiful children and worm, loving house to come back to every day.

And, if common sense doesn’t kick in, you or your other half is in a serious trouble. That’s why you need to keep the finger on the pulse.
If the other half can see (or you as well) that she can get away with this, she (or you) will take another step, deeper into the trouble.

At the beginning of my last relationship (she’s my wife now), one day she told me (kind of looking for permission) that she’s going out for ice cream. She has won a bet made at her workplace with her male co-worker betting on something really silly that she knew she couldn’t loose.

My answer to that was:

You know this bet wasn’t about Ice cream & you know where this is going. The minute you’ll walk out that door, our relationship is over with. If that’s what you want, go ahead

She did never leave the house that evening & we got married a year later… .
In return I gave up many of my very good looking girl friends, just so she would feel jealous. And that was just the beginning of the “give some – take some” ways of working things out.

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[ZokesPro]

At the beginning of my last relationship (she’s my wife now), one day she told me (kind of looking for permission) that she’s going out for ice cream. She has won a bet made at her workplace with her male co-worker betting on something really silly that she knew she couldn’t loose.

My answer to that was:

You know this bet wasn’t about Ice cream & you know where this is going. The minute you’ll walk out that door, our relationship is over with. If that’s what you want, go ahead

She did never leave the house that evening & we got married a year later… .
In return I gave up many of my very good looking girl friends, just so she would feel jealous. And that was just the beginning of the “give some – take some” ways of working things out.

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I don't get what your talking about here. What was the bet? Why did giving up your good looking friends make her feel jealous?

[ND66]

I don't get what your talking about here. What was the bet? Why did giving up your good looking friends make her feel jealous?

Sorry, typo error.
It should say “wouldn’t feel jealous”.
The do feel insecure just like we do too.

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[ZokesPro]

Ah, makes more sense now.

[Claymonkey]

Ah, makes more sense now.

We are still talking about women so no it doesn't really If you think it does then you're in for a shock. Though I do admit that tend to make no sense in somewhat consistent ways.