what is wrong with ppl these days

[SpiralDragon]

Originally posted by Drizzt
The only good friend is a dead friend.

ouch ... thats kinda drastic... dont you think....

[Drizzt]

Originally posted by SpiralDragon
ouch ... thats kinda drastic... dont you think....

Nope, it's realistic.

[TransformX]

If you do a little research about the 'virtues' of a friend, you'll be surprised that an animal usually has more of them than most human beings.

Get a Dog/Cat/Goldfish or whatever.

[SpiralDragon]

@TransformX lol.... well cant get a dog becuse i dont have time to walk it... as with the old family dog we got rid off... kept peeing and shiting all over the place... cant get a cat cause i am alerigic to them.. yet i do like them... and a gold fish would just remind me of things i dont want to remeber..... on the subejct why does a gold fish keep going around in circles? cause it has a memory span of just a few seconds



@Drizzt my wife calls her self a "realist" but that is just a nother word for being a pesamist... i on the other hand am an optimistic pesamist .......or Pesemisic optemist... depending on the time of day ...

[SpiralDragon]

now a dragon... that would be a great freind to have... sadly they only exist in my dreams

[Drizzt]

The only good friend is a dead friend.

It's all a matter of being labeled. People label themselves and other as friends, and are happy. Are they friends? No, but they are labeled so.

Girls want to be married. Do they want to be happy? Nope, they want the label.

A male and a female want to be a couple. Do they care if they are happy? No, they simply want to be a couple.



SD, I've seen too many friends who don't know each other, too many married couple who don't know what is love, too many people be together without being happy...



The only good friend is a dead friend.
Amen.

[The PIT]

Can remember some Girls I used to work with. They wanted to get married not becuase they loved the guy they were with. No becuase they were supposed to get married.

[SpiralDragon]

yeh..its the same thing here... even on a university level.. meny girls come to universty as a means to hunt for rpospective husbands... but i care about being happy and knowing that those that i hold dear to me are happy

[SpiralDragon]

last night i called this friend of mine and told her that i need to talk to her.. .she said that this week she is somewhat overly busy but she promissed to call me back as soon as she gets sometime off... i hope things work out fine... and i hope she is not just dellaying this talk

[SpiralDragon]

UPDATE:

ok this came to me as a major shock an surprise....

my freind called me yesterday and asked to talk to me.... i got there and she sounded un easy and she stalled as mutch as posible untill i decided its time to make her blurt it out....

and here it is... off all people... and remeber she is some one who understands me better than most people...... she thought i was in love with her.... here is how she stated it: " you are comited and i am commited and i dont want something to hapen that may lead to a missunderstanding"

well i managed to reasure her that although i was very fond of her and regarded her higher than all of my freinds i was very mutch in love with my wife and did not think that i would stop loving her soon no mater what hard times we have to go through together..... and then i added that i seriously dont see how a missunderstanding should come to play.... we are both freinds.... and i love her as a freind... and i dont have any ulterior motives..... that i am an emotionaly intense person is something she knows about and that we have been in positions where missunderstanding could have ocured but did not... we where in possitions where we saw more of eachother than our loved ones and no missunderstandings happened...... we spent 8 consecutive days and nights together editing one of her projects... we where locked in my room alone for the duration of this time and no missunderstandings ocored.... so why should they hapen and why the change now... unfortunatly we both ran out of time and had to leave in difrent directions with the promiss of continuing this conversation....... what do you make of this...

its true that i am emotionaly intence.... but i take great pain to make sure that only the people who can understand this will be shown this side of me.... and on all acounts she fit the profile untill now... and i have no idea why... hell... sometime ago she complimented me on my openess with my emotions and said it is what makes me unique ..... why the change now... ????

welcome to the MURC COC

[Admiral]

Originally posted by SpiralDragon
what do you make of this...

Maybe she likes you too much and she'd rather keep her distance than suffer, knowing you're both committed.
(only an assumption though)

[SpiralDragon]

hum never thought of it that way......

[Duty]

SD,

I hope you don't mind others poking in. I have been in a similar situation, twice of note. The first time I nearly destroyed a 10-year friendship, the second did destroy a 4-year friendship. Oddly enough I didn’t even know about the second until it was to late. In the first case, it worked out well we’re still friends (26+ years and going). She is happily married and we see each other as often as possible (she lives 3 hours away now so not all the time). The second was weird; she ended up avoiding me like the plague and later moved to Idaho (move not related to me). I had no clue what was going on until much later when another friend clued me in. She saw our intimacy as me wanting to get sexual. When I was not even interested that way.

This taught me a few things, don’t take anything for granted; if people are acting funny there is a reason. Woman see and think drastically different from men, not better not worse just different. Personally, I now know that a relationship can be intimate without being sexual and that this is not true for everyone. When I was 17 that was a new concept (the first experience). I also learned what I perceive and what others perceive is sometimes vastly different (men and woman).

The funny thing is the biggest help so far was a book called “Please Understand Me II” by David Keirsey. Funny little book that has a nasty little habit of telling us more about ourselves then we really want to know. If you have never done a temperament test grab the book and take the test, it is really cool.

The point to all this is know yourself, pay attention to the world around you and be open and honest. You can’t make things work out, but they can if both parties want it to. There an old adage that goes something like “Don’t worry about the things you can’t change but focus on the things you can.” Although sad, friendships end form time to time.

Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

Jeff

[SpiralDragon]

i senserly hope this freindship dosent end... i like this person to much to see her give me the cold shoulder over a "what if something happened between us" rutein.... u just hope things work out..... i have asked to talk to her tomorow and discuse the mater further.... since i have such dificulty saying waht i want to say oraly... i have writen all that in a 3 page letter... she is imprtant to me... i do not desier her sexualy... i respect her quite alot.... man... i am so confused...