Is it me...? (opinions please)

[Chrono_Wanderer]

moral of story: do not lend anything to any phycho if you expect the stuff back

actually, i feel insulted if someone does that to me... clearly she has no respect for you

[VJ]

Well, she not only shows not respect for me, she is getting in trouble with more and more people in the appartement-block...

Anyway, this weekend she left some messages on my cellphone (both voicemail and SMS). The first ones were quite aggressive (general undertone: 'Who do you think you are !' and stuff like that), that later ones are (IMO) threats (I'll try to translate as good as possible): 'I had good intentions with you, you are my neighbour, it would not be wise to annoy each other... understand what I'm saying.' and also: 'Don't go to the syndicate telling stuff about me that is not true, or you'll be in for suprises. I guarantee you this and I mean it.'. (not sure if 'syndicate' is the proper word, it means the people responsible for the appartement building, repairs, complaints and contracts).

She wants to talk about it on monday (even though I said there is nothing to talk about).

Right now, I'm making arrangements to have a friend with me (just in case), and I sure won't let her inside.


Jörg

[dZeus]

sounds like she needs psychological treatment urgently

[RC Agent]

Either this person is psycho, or that's one hell of a hifi system!!!! What's the specs??

[Tempest]

Don't you see, she's attracted to you

Nah, (probably) just kidding... She seems to be of the type who thinks that all people are there just to serve her perfect person. She might even think that the envious normal-looking people are constantly plotting against her.

That kind of people sometimes don't realize what they're doing before you crush their ego. Someone is bound to do this sooner or later (if no one else does then TIME will) but it is recommended to first try to treat them like people and tell things the way they are. After all, she might have some other kind of trouble that is reflected in her behaviour.

Tell her that you (AFAYK) haven't done anything to annoy her other than asking back your own personal property, now that she's going away and all. Make clear that you have done favors for her and expect her to (at least) behave decently in return. Make sure that she understands that you aren't responsible for any of the tricks that have possibly been played on her, but also point out that people need to follow some rules, and that little princesses are no exception.

Of course, all this might prove a bit difficult if she behaves like a "psycho bitch"... But try to get her to sit down, shut up and listen to your side of the story.

[VJ]

Originally posted by Tempest
She seems to be of the type who thinks that all people are there just to serve her perfect person. She might even think that the envious normal-looking people are constantly plotting against her.

That first sentence is spot on (I think). Not sure about that second one, but I hope she doens't see me as the 'leader' of the conspiracy...

Tell her that you (AFAYK) haven't done anything to annoy her other than asking back your own personal property, now that she's going away and all. Make clear that you have done favors for her and expect her to (at least) behave decently in return. Make sure that she understands that you aren't responsible for any of the tricks that have possibly been played on her, but also point out that people need to follow some rules, and that little princesses are no exception.

Of course, all this might prove a bit difficult if she behaves like a "psycho bitch"... But try to get her to sit down, shut up and listen to your side of the story. [/B]

I can understand that this the best practise, but I'm not sure I can do it. There is little doubt in my mind she'll listen to me (before, she sometimes complained to me about the complaints she had regarding the noise she makes (e.g. music too loud). Her interpretation is that she can make as much noise as she wants before 22.00. When I responded that living in a building with other people implies some basic respect, and the you have to take into account the other people living there, she ridicules this, saying that they have no respect for her, as - according to here interpretation of the law - she can make noise as much as she likes).
I don't think I'll be able to convince her now, I just want to stop all communications as soon as possible, and be done with it. She lives in her appartement, I live in mine.

Jörg