Sheriff: Officers Must Have Sex With Prostitutes For Evidence

[schmosef]

Um, what do you think I admitted to?

Having paid for sex.

[lecter]

The thing is, in all my years here I've never met a Thai girl that I can honestly say was "interesting" (and I live in a bloody university!)...plenty of ones seemed scruable enough, but to me there was just no point in taking out someone who I'd never want to see again, go through a ridiculous conversation and generally have an annoying time just for the sex when there is a much simpler path with the the same result. When I think someone is indeed worth pursuing, I do so and have been successful enough (enough not to have to keep looking ), but so far here that has only been with foreigners. The one time I had a one-night-stand with a Thai woman, it was only because we were both drunk and with nothing better to do

[schmosef]

So you have paid for it? Directly, that is; we've all paid for it indirectly.

Was it awkward? Business like? Did you try to please her too? Did she want you to? Was it an escort type of thing where you took her out to dinner first or did she just show up at your place and do the deed?

Ok, I hope you don't mind me asking these questions.

I'm not making judgements, just totally curious as to the nature of the experience.

[az]

I'm with Schmo

[TnT]

LOL.

Never payed for sex myself, but if you think about it, the only difference between prostitutes and many dates is that, for the money, you can be assured of a certain outcome for the former.

[Gurm]

if you think about it, the only difference between prostitutes and many dates is that, for the money, you can be assured of a certain outcome for the former.

My wife will kick my ass for saying this, but... YUP!

Morally, what's the REAL difference between an escort that goes out every friday and saturday night with a different guy, spends the night, accepts a few hundred for the pleasure... and a girl who goes out theoretically romantically with a different guy every weekend? The latter is wined, dined, and ... well, you know. So is the former, but there are no pretenses!

[az]

And do you think/know it would feel the same for you?

[schmosef]

When I was much younger, sex was meaningless to me. As long as I was physically attracted to the girl, I'd be up for it.

Now I feel like I have to have an emotional connection.

I have to know the girl and like her and respect her before I want to sleep with her.

Paying by the hour to build that connection would be expensive.

[lecter]

So you have paid for it? Directly, that is; we've all paid for it indirectly.

Was it awkward? Business like? Did you try to please her too? Did she want you to? Was it an escort type of thing where you took her out to dinner first or did she just show up at your place and do the deed?

Ok, I hope you don't mind me asking these questions.

I'm not making judgements, just totally curious as to the nature of the experience.

Yeah, I've paid for it directly...it wasn't an escort thing (that would raise the same issues I described above), it was a massage place (they can be pretty big, with hotel-style rooms) where you pick who you want out of a "fishtank". They seem quite nice, so each time I also tried to please...and yeah, they did want me, many Thai women get pretty horny around Western men I'd never pick some slut in a club or off the street, the advantage of a dedicated place is that you're pretty safe related to cleanliness & stuff, but of course it does also cost more...one time I went with a friend of mine to this very traditional Chinese-style club he was a member of, that was pretty cool - they even had their own ballet dancers, and upon arriving they wanted to show him "the new girl"

For me, except every once in a long while when I just wanted to have some fun, sex always has to have meaning, otherwise it just feels as much a bodily relief function as going to the toilet, there is no real mental pleasure from it.

[az]

That's what I wanted to ask - isn't sex with a prostitute just like jacking off with a better hand?

[TnT]

That's what I wanted to ask - isn't sex with a prostitute just like jacking off with a better hand?

Yeah, but you get boobies.

[Gurm]

Uhh... I'm trying to understand this here.

Some of you are bewildering me.

Now I am the FIRST person to tell you that "having sex" and "making love" are two entirely different things...

But let's face it, not every night is lovemaking. Some nights are just f***ing. And why would f***ing be worse with a hot, supremely talented woman who is willing to do pretty much whatever you want (i.e. can afford)?

Edit: I could see where an uninhibited girlfriend might be better than the pro.

[az]

Hmm. I don't know, no kissing? Definately a turn-off. And I really don't need it that bad (yeah, right). I think I need to be convinced that the woman is enjoying it, and I couldn't if I paid.

Coincidentally, I just see some documentary on TV about bored german housewives (married or not, mostly with children though) selling themselves on gesext.de (looks and works like eBay, but it's for sex). (EDIT: WTF! Three times a day every day PLUS husband - mostly for pleasure, the money is just a nice side-effect.)

[Gurm]

Hmm. I don't know, no kissing? Definately a turn-off. And I really don't need it that bad (yeah, right). I think I need to be convinced that the woman is enjoying it, and I couldn't if I paid.

Coincidentally, I just see some documentary on TV about bored german housewives (married or not, mostly with children though) selling themselves on gesext.de (looks and works like eBay, but it's for sex). (EDIT: WTF! Three times a day every day PLUS husband - mostly for pleasure, the money is just a nice side-effect.)

Well it's the streetwalkers that don't kiss, and we've already disqualified them.

[TnT]

Hmm. I don't know, no kissing? Definately a turn-off. And I really don't need it that bad (yeah, right). I think I need to be convinced that the woman is enjoying it, and I couldn't if I paid.

Coincidentally, I just see some documentary on TV about bored german housewives (married or not, mostly with children though) selling themselves on gesext.de (looks and works like eBay, but it's for sex). (EDIT: WTF! Three times a day every day PLUS husband - mostly for pleasure, the money is just a nice side-effect.)

Okay I was curious and went to the site. Odd.

az, I think you are too much of a romantic

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