Is there a bigger lie?

[az]

I could really use a lot of advice as things have been going on for the past 3 almost 4 yeArs and we are still at the same semi-dating stage.

People don't follow their own advice very well. I should just walk away and stay that way this time... Again.

Probably. Find some greener pastures, there are three billions of them out there, you know

[VJ]

I could really use a lot of advice as things have been going on for the past 3 almost 4 yeArs and we are still at the same semi-dating stage.

People don't follow their own advice very well. I should just walk away and stay that way this time... Again.

I know this doesn't help you, but I personally find it a relief to see that so many MURCers are suffering the same (not that I wish them this, but I'm not alone )
It is a topic I find hard to talk about with real-life friends.


Jörg

[Gurm]

See, NO woman wants to meet a nice guy. A woman already knows nice guys. What she really wants is to have a nice guy to hang out with while she ****s outlaw bikers.

[KvHagedorn]

Well.. a lot of guys want a nice girl to marry and have kids with while they go out and have sex with sleazy whores. But at least the nice girl gets some.

[Whirl-Secret]

You guys have it easy! Imagine meeting the most amazing girl in the world, falling in love, getting married, then discovering 6 years later that you have grown apart and don't love each other any more, that is true suckage :/

[lowlifecat]

You guys have it easy! Imagine meeting the most amazing girl in the world, falling in love, getting married, then discovering 6 years later that you have grown apart and don't love each other any more, that is true suckage :/

been there also, but without the married and children part

[lowlifecat]

... i've probably heard 'you're a jerk!' more than 'you're a nice guy but...' so please don't stick the 'nice guy' label on me. (shut up SD)

it's kinda difficult to move on at this point because she has started recently putting some effort. not as much as i would like but it is more than before. she's got a tough work schedule and at least she slots me some of her free time between her family and friends time.

she doesn't flirt directly but will sms me at random times during a 24h day just to bother me when she's bored, unable to sleep, going to sleep, feels like she needs to bother someone.

if i could listen to my head instead of my balls i'd prolly know that she's stringing me along. The problem with being able to lick your own balls is that your head isn't very far away. Humans men should be glad that they can't lick thier own balls like cats and dogs. their own heads aren't that far off, any closer and they'd have more trouble with women than they do now.

for those of you out there who like asian women, i'd like to mention that she is 3/4th cambodian 1/4th chinese.

and for those of you who *twitch!* at multiculturism; what do you get when you mix a cambodian/chinese/canadian with a feline-lezbanese-camadian?

[KvHagedorn]

You guys have it easy! Imagine meeting the most amazing girl in the world, falling in love, getting married, then discovering 6 years later that you have grown apart and don't love each other any more, that is true suckage :/

Well, if you really don't love each other anymore, at least you had something good for awhile. However, I don't believe it is possible to both love someone and not love someone in the same lifetime. If you truly love them, you will always retain some of that feeling, and perhaps it's just some selfishness getting in your way.

[Jessterw]

I'd wager that some people would argue against that claim KvH. While the love for what once was can remain, love itself can most definitely fade away (or be stomped, betrayed, torn away). Sure that love can often be rekindled, but just as often it cannot.

[Fluff]

You can just be friends with girl that you have fallen for.

[TransformX]

love itself can most definitely fade away (or be stomped, betrayed, torn away).

Yeah, that part really hurts
Which reminds me of Robin Williams's funny quote:

Ah, yes, divorce ... from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet.

[Fluff]

I agree.

[Gurm]

You can just be friends with girl that you have fallen for.

No, no you can't. You might THINK you can, but in the end you can't.

See:

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/

[DentyCracker]

No, no you can't. You might THINK you can, but in the end you can't.

See:

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/

Actually Gurm I can and have

[Fluff]

That's the current situation. Luckily I have the unfortunate benefit of hindsight.

Always bitching about her boyfriend, should I or shouldn't I leave him, who she fancies at work, how her family is splitting up. Is she pretty, all this stuff. She says that i'm 'nice' and 'funny'. I feel like entertainment.

I do not want to be a doormat.