Burning bridges

[lowlifecat]

sorry if i got confusing, there is the abuser and an abuser wanna be.

for the wanna be; i figured she blew her chance last year. its her choice of timing this year that prolly irked me. i will call her back and let her know that i'm willing to be just friends. non of that 'friends with benifits' illusion that she's offering. and non of that re-kindling stuff either. I'll leave it to her to work around that.

if she calls me back then it's a step in winning back some trust. if not then i've already had my closure long ago.

as for my abuser... i dont know. schedules are hell, if we are having issues now i don't want to imagine what we would have if a full relationship develops. this will requre a lot of work to work and we will have to sit down and talk it through.

she will also have to make a choice between 'retro' and 'metro'

[Gurm]

sorry if i got confusing, there is the abuser and an abuser wanna be.

for the wanna be; i figured she blew her chance last year. its her choice of timing this year that prolly irked me. i will call her back and let her know that i'm willing to be just friends. non of that 'friends with benifits' illusion that she's offering. and non of that re-kindling stuff either. I'll leave it to her to work around that.

if she calls me back then it's a step in winning back some trust. if not then i've already had my closure long ago.

as for my abuser... i dont know. schedules are hell, if we are having issues now i don't want to imagine what we would have if a full relationship develops. this will requre a lot of work to work and we will have to sit down and talk it through.

she will also have to make a choice between 'retro' and 'metro'

You are extremely confused. You're rejecting the wrong one, and the very thought that you're contemplating getting into a deeper relationship with the ... *sigh* you aren't listening to us, are you?

[lowlifecat]

All these years using a PC (personal confuser) has gotten to me

actually, if i had been listen to the good advice i would just ditch both of 'em.

For abuser wanna be; i don't want to get into a situation with her where she knows she can get me into her pants with a snap of her fingers. that is the worst situation i could be in. like zokes said.

right now i'm giving her a sliver of a chance. if i do what you suggest then there is nothing to stop her from hopping to the next guy in the future.

this way I'm making sure she's willing to be a real friend. she has gotta realize that she can't brush me off easily. if she has to jump through a couple hoops to get me into her pants all the better for me.

again; this is in regards to her wish to re-kindle whatever we started last summer. if she is serious then what i ask shouldn't be a problem for her.

if she isn't willing and she just hops to another guy then I wouldn't have gained anything BUT i wouldn't have lost any of my dignity in the process.

i talked to my abuser before work today and tried to bring up a serious subject. she quite neatly avoided it so i told her: "Snip snip goes the string." She asks "What does that mean?".

"It means 'Goodbye, i gotta go.'" i said. Let's see if she gets it.

[Brian Ellis]

LLC

I've kept out of this up to now, but the moment has come to be brutally frank. Sorry!

You are so immature that it is incredible. The very fact that you use the term "abuser" and your other propos smack of the clumsiness of a 15-year old. Believe it or not, girls are people, each with her own personality and emotions; they are not sex toys. If all you need is sex, pay for it - or take yourself in hand if you want a loving relationship, because it is clear that would be your greatest love, such is your self-pity.

Grow up, man, and keep away from girls until you have done so. Not only are you going to hurt them, you will continue to hurt yourself. If you want my advice, sink yourself into a new hobby which will allow you to improve yourself, such as photography, and strive to produce better and better results. You will know when you are ready for a real relationship when sex becomes secondary, albeit still-important.

Please accept my apologies for my brutality, but I feel that someone has to to tell you.

[lowlifecat]

LLC

I've kept out of this up to now, but the moment has come to be brutally frank. Sorry!

s'quite all right

You are so immature that it is incredible. The very fact that you use the term "abuser" and your other propos smack of the clumsiness of a 15-year old. Believe it or not, girls are people, each with her own personality and emotions; they are not sex toys. If all you need is sex, pay for it - or take yourself in hand if you want a loving relationship, because it is clear that would be your greatest love, such is your self-pity.

I'm being spare on the details of these "relationships" on purpose. mostly to save you guys the gory and boring details.

I'm not interested in having a sex toy, and neither am I (more importantly) interested in being someone else's sex toy (no matter how flattering). if that didn't come across in my posts then i'm not sure how to make it clearer.

i don't see how wanting to maintain my dignity with this woman = me being immature. I also don't understand how wanting a loving relationship based on a strong friendship = my self pity.

Grow up, man,

been there, done that, not worth it

...and keep away from girls until you have done so. Not only are you going to hurt them, you will continue to hurt yourself. If you want my advice, sink yourself into a new hobby which will allow you to improve yourself, such as photography, and strive to produce better and better results. You will know when you are ready for a real relationship when sex becomes secondary, albeit still-important.

exactly what i told myself 5 years ago. nice but I've been single for about that long and trust me i don't put a lot of effort into finding someone as i do into my hobbies.

Please accept my apologies for my brutality, but I feel that someone has to to tell you.

like i said, it's quite alright and appreciated.

I just want to add that you don't know and won't know fully what's between my abuser and I. I have good reason for calling her that and have done so to her face... she thinks is extremely amusing. she wants to be along the next time i get a piercing or tattoo to see my pain. not because she wants to comfort but because she just enjoys watching me in pain.

[az]

she wants to be along the next time i get a piercing or tattoo to see my pain. not because she wants to comfort but because she just enjoys watching me in pain.

That's fscked up. Why do you even still talk to her?

[Gurm]

That's fscked up. Why do you even still talk to her?

Because he has PROBLEMS. He refuses to listen to reason, and keeps making bad choices.