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[ALBPM]

Excellent Idea!!!!! Now get to it Paddy

Pauly

[Pace]

Ok, now what is up with you Pauly? Fed up with so many Paul's on the forum?

Anyway, whatever it is, I'd much rather be called Paul too

Paul

[ALBPM]

No, not fed up at all This thread is busting at the seams with Paul's though. Kinda cool, eh!!

Paul

[paulcs]

I can feel our power growing.

Today, this thread.

Tomorrow, the world! (Or another thread.)

Paul
paulcs@flashcom.net

[spoogenet]

I'm not exactly a paul, but.......smack.....I'm taking over the world....



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[Pace]

Yea Paul!

[Pace]

<h2>The full (horrific) story - in depth:</h2>

Once upon a time, there was a boy called Paul. He got the train every day, and occasionally spoke to old friends and new friends. One day however, a friend introduced him to a girl, a girl called Jennifer. As it turned out, Paul and Jennifer would see each other a lot on the train, due to a similar schedule for the months ahead.

Paul felt that this girl was very nice and pleasant, and spoke to her every Tuesday and Thursday - the days when they got the train together. Jennifer would tell him about her relationship problems, ex-boyfriends and new boyfriends. Paul looked forward to these train journeys, and missed the company on the other days when she wasn't around. However, he took no notice of that, or the fact that he always felt great when he was around her, or the jealousy when she spoke of where her boyfriend was taking her.

And then came Valentine's day! Jennifer mentioned that she'd like to have a little rose from her boyfriend, but this was an unlikely prospect she admitted. Paul thought it would be sweet to get her one, but didn't want to infringe on her existing relationship. That relationship however, would end that night, with the boyfriend treating Jennifer badly, and causing them to split.

As ever, Jennifer told Paul all about this on Thursday, how the, now ex boyfriend didn't really care for her, and wasn't really interested in their relationship. Paul felt bad, and wished he had something nice to cheer Jennifer up. No chocolates, no sweets, and no romantic roses to hand however, he had to just listen to it all, wishing how he could ease her pain.

The story was all too simple up to now though, and it just HAD to get complicated! The complication was Paul's friend Courtney, who just happened to know Jennifer's ex quite well! So, during a chat with Courtney, Paul made on offhand joke about his chances with Jennifer, to which Courtney told him he had no chance. Unsure of whether she was kidding, or why she would say that, he pressed for an answer...which showed that his joke about him and Jennifer, wasn't all that much of a joke to him. Courtney gave him advice, and told him to wait a while, so he did.

But he couldn't stop thinking about this! Everyone he spoke to he talked about her! Whether it was his friends and asking them if he knew her, his sister who does a similar course at another Uni, or his Dad who knew her parents and grandparents, he just kept talking about her. Maybe they all realised, maybe they didn't, but he still couldn't stop thinking about her! Keeping him awake at nights, and waking him early in the morning, he just couldn't get Jennifer out of his head. So he began to ask other people about what he should do, people that he hardly knew and complete strangers were top of the list, in case Jennifer found out about his feelings before he knew what to do about them. [Enter MURC ]

But Courtney had different ideas! Unknown to Paul, she was very friendly with Brad, and told him of Paul! And then Brad told Jennifer! Jennifer didn't seem any different the first time Paul saw her again on the train, but she might've been less talkative. The next day though, he sent a couple of messages to her phone, and she never replied...so he asked her when he saw her, and she said she doesn't always check them...and she had a book to read, so said no more about it. Then, on arrival at the station, she took an unusual route back to her car, to avoid Paul? We don't yet know.

Could she be ignoring, lying and avoiding Paul at all costs? Why would she if she was? Should Paul even pursue someone who treats him like this? Or was she telling the truth? Or maybe even just feeling unwell? Paul's friends told him to forget about it, but how could he? These were brand new feelings to him, stronger than anything he's ever felt before - he'd watch out for her when passed by tramps, he'd worry when she walked back to her car in the dark, he'd get annoyed if she even had friends with her, so that he couldn't talk to her. He really thought he might be feeling love.

Whatever it was, Paul was determined to find out, so on Tuesday 6th March 2001, he sat up late typing the story of the relationship, and decided that he had to find out if she knew! Maybe she would be back to normal in the morning, maybe she wouldn't! Maybe she would approach him, maybe she would retreat. Maybe she wouldn't even be there. What would the day ahead hold?

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Well, I'm posting this late, for no particular reason, but thought I'd split the posts to show the division

Paul. (all names in the story above have been changed (maybe except one), and any resemblence to a famous celebtrity couple is entirely coincidental )

[Pace]

So, imagine my horror when on Tuesday morning there was...no Jennifer! Ok, so maybe this was a coincidence

However, I've just been speaking to her before getting on the train, and she said she was waiting for her friend...

So, Holly/other females - would you act like this at all, in a similar situation? Or maybe if you weren't feeling well? Or am I reading too much into this?

We'll know more tomorrow, when I (hopefully) speak to her on the train again

(oh dear, I'm getting very sad now, giving endless details about the most trivial of things, but I kind of want to conclude this uncertainty now!)

Paul.

[cjolley]

Turn & run!, NOW!

1, By going to Brad, Courtny has shown that
she is no friend.
She may have motives of her own. Doesn't matter.

2, By avoiding you Jennifer has shown that she is still stuck to Brad.

Sometime it will be your turn, but this time it isn't.
Sorry to bring the bad news.
chuck

PS This looks like a job for friends & beer. Lots of both.

[Liquid Snake]

Funny. I had been stuck in a similar situation recently, with a girl that I liked staying away from me, ignoring me and lying to me, after finding out that I liked her. What did I do? Forget it. That's what I did. I felt just like you, when she started treating me like this. All the same questions were flowing through my head, I could not stop thinking about her. After a couple of months of this, I decided that I should not go after her if she treated me like that.

And Paul, I have also been wondering about that. Do all females act like this in these situations? Two girls I've dealt with have acted the same way. Though, in both cases, neither of them have had any of the relationship problems that Jennifer has had.

[This message has been edited by Liquid Snake (edited 07 March 2001).]

[paulcs]

I'm with Chuck. Back off. Move on. Torture yourself as little as possible.

Friends and beer.

Paul
paulcs@flashcom.net

[ALBPM]

I agree with Chuck and Paul....

Paul, you deserve someone better than Jennifer.


FRIENDS and BEER!!!!

Paul

[This message has been edited by ALBPM (edited 09 March 2001).]

[KvHagedorn]

What I have learned:

1) Women think nice guys have no balls.

2) If a woman talks to you about her boyfriends, she sees you as being sexless and inconsequential.

3) Be an ****ole. Slap her around.. apparently women seem to like these guys, since they always date them.

4) Lift weights and beat the shit out of some people.. she will smell the testosterone and go for you.

5) Women are animals.. just like men.

6) Don't whine on message boards and to "friends" who have no respect for you, it only makes things worse.

7) These people aren't respecting you, so get mad and make them respect you. Be creative.

8) I hope you don't resemble anyone from "Revenge of the Nerds".. if so, do something to change this.

9) If you think this is harsh, remember, the truth usually is. Watch a documentary about wild African dogs. Imagine they are people. This is how things really are in the world.. you just have to strip away the charade of civilization you've been allowing yourself to believe in all these years.

[Liquid Snake]

I'll echo everyone else here. Run. I learned it the hard way. Don't get sucked into the same thing. Though, when I had this situation, there was no beer for me as underage drinking is bad!

[HollyBerri]

Naturally, I don't know Jennifer, but one of 2 things is going on here:[list=1][*] Jennifer is confused (by this new information)/scared (about possibly starting another relationship)/upset (because she doesn't like you and will have to hurt you); or[*] Jennifer has information you don't (like everything about her feelings and relationship with Courtney, with Brad, and Courtney's relationship with Brad).[/list=a]

No matter which one is true, it is clear that her maturity level is not up to par, because running and hiding from a good thing (someone "liking" you is commonly considered a good thing) is not very adult. She may just be temporarily freaked, or she may be a nut job, but to you she's nothing but trouble.

I cast my vote with all the other "Nay"-sayers.... Run, do not walk, run!

There are millions of girls in the world, I'm sure you can find one who won't drive you crazy.

And have that Courteney bitch killed.

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Holly