Should I...

[cjolley]

Um...
KvH? Did we forget to take our pill this morning?

[SCompRacer]

So are these the best narrow minded, hard and fast absolutes you can come up with? Do they work for you?

[Pneumatic]

WOW KvH, sounds like you are just a tad bit bitter! (most of that is true though)

Paul, I have to agree with Chuck, Paul, Paul, and Paul ( ). Move on. I don't know how old you are, you don't strike me as being in your 50's so trust me; even though this feels like the biggest most important thing in your life, it is only the first of many such epesodes you will have the privelage to experience. A year from now it will be hard for you to remember whats-her-faces name.

[Gurm]

Don't be mean to him!

We've all tortured ourselves over women (or girls, depending on how far back into our collective tortured past you'd like to go) before!

But Pace, honestly... run. Don't walk. This is NOT a situation you want.

KV is right about one thing - if she unloaded her relationship problems on you, and is acting this way... she saw you as more of a male girlfriend. Honestly.

Hurts, doesn't it? I know. We all know, since we've all been there. Buck up, go have a beer, and... and here's where I agree with KV... do something violent (not necessarily DESTRUCTIVE, just violent) and work off some of your emotions. (wink)

- Gurm

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Listen up, you primitive screwheads! See this? This is my BOOMSTICK! Etc. etc.

[paulcs]

I agree with Holly. Courtney the Mouth should be swimmin' with the fishes.

Paul (getting back in touch with his NYC Italian roots and seeking out his "inner-Soprano")
paulcs@flashcom.net

[KvHagedorn]

Thanks, Holly.. you've restored some of my faith in the female sex.

Paul, I'm sorry I was so harsh, but there's the world for you. It's harsh on all of us. Holly has some excellent insights, though.. and I've thought of something else now.. See what happens when you let the word leak out through others? Especially others who don't care about you? Wouldn't things have been much better if you had simply looked in her eyes and asked her out? Or even just looked in her eyes like you want her.. (Watch Russell Crowe and Tom Cruise do it in their movies if you want good examples.. I have it on good authority that they have it down pat. ) Another good one is Mel Gibson.. maybe you should watch his film about your famed countryman again, and take inspiration (and a hint) from Braveheart. (I don't mean killing Englishmen with a 5 foot sword or a giant hammer, either!) Remember the tagline, "Every man dies.. Not every man truly lives."

BTW, Wasn't Falkirk the site of one of the horrific battles in that film? As great a lesson as can be learned there, when Robert the Bruce hasn't the courage of his convictions and betrays his countrymen and himself. If this love thing happens to you again, and it will, redeem yourself as the Bruce did finally at the end. Just give her the look, nothing more. That will tell you all you need to know if you pay attention. If the look affects her in any way, let it percolate a bit and then go for it. You might as well have the courage of your convictions. This is your life.. you will be old and full of regrets before you know it, unless you are too busy living that life to realize it.. So just live it.. and don't look back.


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Kind Regards,

KvH

[Pace]

Well then, thanks for all the advice

My attempt to sweep her off her feet may or may not happen, but I'll have some good advice for the next girl that makes me feel this way (if there is one...hmm).

I feel like confronting her, but that 'look' seems a nice idea too. However, just to make this into real soap material (as in soap opera!), I sent a message (SMS) to her phone, talking about her! (by accident of course!). It said, roughly, that she wasn't on the train, and I think she's avoiding me! Fantastic thing to do in this situation!

Anyway, no more advice from now on, I'll take it from here, but I'll keep you's up to date if anything happens - my head (and most people) are telling me to run away, but there's still that feeling inside...

KvH: I realise some of your points (male girlfriend as Gurm put it), but I was initially wondering how to take this into a fantastic romance, and didn't want friends spoiling it...however, I'm sorry to whine, but I think we all do it sometime

Liquid: Surely you're too young to understand I'd try and explain again, but I'll sound like a sap again!

Holly: Trouble eh? Do women bring anything else

And more for KvH: The Battle of Falkirk is kind of famous, but I don't know much about it's appearance in Braveheart! Did you like that film? It's got a few inaccuracies So don't take it as a historical reference, only as a nice story!

Thanks again all my MURCing friends,

Paul.

PS: KvH, do you not consider us (as in MURC) as friends? I'm not wanting to sound geeky, but I do trust people's opinion in here, and enjoy reading the posts etc. But you made it seem like I appeared a geek who was asking complete strangers about it! And although you's all are in a sense strangers, I'd rather think of you's as friends!

[HollyBerri]

Hear, hear...!That's sweet, Paul (#6 )!!! Good luck!!

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Holly

[SCompRacer]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Pace:

......It's got a few inaccuracies ....


</font>

You mean all movies aren't factual representations of real life? You mean they change things to make them more entertaining? Wow....

Glad to hear your getting through this Pace. Have seen girls that wern't interested handle a guy with a crush on them better, but what doesn't kill you can make you stronger.

Nice guys can and do get nice women. If you are happy with yourself as you are, why change? I'd be proud to have you as a friend.

[Liquid Snake]

Heh, yes I am too young. Freshman in high school

[Pace]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by cjolley:
1, By going to Brad, Courtny has shown that
she is no friend.
She may have motives of her own. Doesn't matter.</font>

No motives of her own, but I wasn't happy that she mentioned it! She's still seems secretive about what she said...

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2, By avoiding you Jennifer has shown that she is still stuck to Brad.</font>

Yea, fearing this, but should I confront her and get a definate answer?

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">

Sometime it will be your turn, but this time it isn't.
Sorry to bring the bad news.
chuck

PS This looks like a job for friends & beer. Lots of both.</font>

P.

[spoogenet]

Well, good luck with whatever happens. I feel like I'm reading a soap opera here, and I'm hooked, of course. So keep us posted with regular updates.

Oh, and maybe you should have sent something with a little more, err, feeling, in your SMS? Perhaps using some more....explicative...words? Of course none come to mind...hehe.

b

[Pace]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Accidentally sent by Pace:
She wasn't on the train this morning, so either she is still avoiding me, or really isn't ill.

Just thought you'd like to know! Paul.</font>

That's the message about (what did I call her in here again? ), but I sent it to her by accident (it was NOT meant for her ).

And I've still not seen her again...stay tuned for more next week

P.

[cjolley]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">
No motives of her own, but I wasn't happy that she mentioned it! She's still seems secretive about what she said...
</font>

Pick one...
1, She wants Brad & you don't know it.
2, She is better friends with Brad than she is with you.
3, She is much too stupid to be your friend.
4, All of the above.

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Yea, fearing this, but should I confront her and get a definate answer?
</font>

You have your answer. Time to move on.

Chuck
(The voice of experience)

PS Don't forget: Friends & Beer!

[spoogenet]

Too bad you're not psychic, otherwise you could give us previews of next week's episodes.

b